Interesting. I’ve definitely seen these behaviors in other relationships. I was a bit nervous to see what is on the list. Luckily, none of them apply to my marriage.
There’s no class in high school on how to not be a shitty boyfriend or girlfriend. Sure, they teach us the biology of sex, the legality of marriage, and maybe read a few obscure love stories from the 19th century on how not to be.
But when it comes down to actually handling the nitty-gritty of relationships, we’re given no pointers… or worse, we’re given advice columns in women’s magazines.
Yes, it’s trial-and-error from the get-go. And if you’re like most people, it’s been mostly error.
I agree with all of this. The most important thing you can do to fix these issues is talk to your partner, like REALLY talk. Real talk, as it were. And actually listening, taking in what’s going on in the other’s head. They aren’t mind readers. Make sure you describe the issues and try to work something out together. Don’t take all the blame or blame them entirely either.
And yeah, we slip up sometimes, I know I do. It’s hard to just get serious, or sometimes we feel our issues are inconveniences or annoying. But the best way to fix these issues early on is to say something. No yelling, not blaming, no passive lyric tweets. Just talk.
Probably because we value communication quite a bit and that’s literally the solution to just about all of those….
Best couple high-five. UoU